Don’t Let Divorce Rob Your Family of Holiday Magic
Posted by Martin Heller Potempa & Sheppard, PLLC on December 18, 2019
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By now, just about everyone knows the Hallmark channel represents the place to turn to for holiday magic. If you’re going through a divorce, there’s something you already know. The season brings its share of stress. In some cases, more than you can handle.
You may recall the days gone by – even dating back to your own childhood. It doesn’t matter what religious rituals matter to you and your family. It’s a time of prayer, a celebration of lights – or visits with a white bearded man bringing gifts.
For you and yours, it may be the first time you’re apart. If infidelity surfaced as one of your issues, you’re likely either feeling guilty or jealous. Both represent reasonable attitudes when it comes to these types of situations.
Studies show that divorce around the holidays absolutely impacts children. In an ideal case, everyone thinks about sitting by the fireplace and gathering at family dinners.
Of course, your history might suggest that fighting is more the norm than anything else. And, who in the world wants to look back at bad memories centered around would be celebrations?
Suggestions for Capturing Holiday Magic for Your Family, Even After a Divorce
Believe it or not, some experts opine that the holidays are actually the impetus for some divorces. You know the old story about couples who stay together for the sake of the children. It may have a familiar ring. Then, on with the new year, and the meeting with the divorce attorney.
While there’s no set formula that works for every family seeking to keep peace, here are some suggestions:
If you have a court order in place as far as dividing the holidays with your children, abide by it. You don’t want to be found in contempt of court.